Genuine love has absolutely nothing to do with hormones; in fact, genuine love totally disregards their influence! The Perfect example (pun intended) of a man having a genuine love for all people, not just members of the opposite sex, is Jesus Christ! Jesus loves you and me, even while we hated Him (Jn. 3:19-20). The Apostle Paul wrote, "But God commendeth His love toward us, in that, while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us. Much more then, being now justified by His blood, we shall be saved from wrath through Him. For if, when we were enemies, we were reconciled to God by the death of His Son, much more, being reconciled, we shall be saved by His life" (Rom. 5:8-10).
The Apostle John compared the love God has for humanity with the love He has for Jesus! He wrote, "I in them, and Thou in Me, that they may be made perfect in one; and that the world may know that Thou hast sent Me, and hast loved them, as Thou hast loved Me" (Jn. 17:23).
Of course, Jesus and the Father are so much greater than we are; God is even said to be Love (1 Jn. 4:8, 16)! They are perfect, righteous, holy, but we are mere human beings, right? Wrong! All born again believers are indwelt by the Holy Spirit (Rom. 8:9). His job is to guide you in knowing and doing God's will (Jn. 14:26). And, one of the things the Holy Spirit does is empowers a believer to love! The fruit of the Spirit is love (Gal. 5:22)! But whom are we to love? Our friends (Jn. 15:13), our neighbors (Lev. 19:18; Mt. 5:43; 19:19; 22:39; Rom. 13:9; Gal. 5:14; Jam. 2:8; etc.), and even our enemies (Prov. 25:21; Mt. 5:44; Rom. 12:14, 20; etc.).
But there is only one group of people that Jesus tells His disciples to love with the same love He has for us: our wives! In Ephesians 5:25, Paul wrote, "Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the Church, and gave Himself for it." That sounds so simple, doesn't it? But yet, I have never met a man that loved his wife with the same degree Christ loved him! The true test of your love for your wife is to ask yourself: "Would Jesus speak to the Church as I speak to my wife?" "Would Jesus treat the Church as I treat my wife?" "Would Jesus be more concerned over His own needs, than He is for the needs of His Church?" If you cannot answer yes, REPENT!
Let your thoughts, your words, your actions toward your wife be like Jesus' toward you!